SHOULD WE ALLOW KIDS TO FAIL, SO THAT THEY CAN SUCCEED?
I recently stumbled across an article that Time Magazine posted in 2015, that questioned Why Failure Hits Girls So Hard? It reminded me of a book talk I attended about a year ago, where the author said that parents needed to allow their children to fail in order for them to succeed. I have always struggled with the idea of letting kids fail--so that they are better able to handle failure later in life. I can not argue that many kids today are not very resilient, but I see it being an issue that is more prevalent in kids from economically advantaged backgrounds (Affluenza) then a blanket observation. As an educator and mom, I feel like there are some kids (particularly economically disadvantaged and or African American) who will experience enough failure and disappointment through out their life. Therefore, as a parent, I feel it is my responsibility to guide and protect them from failure as much as possible while also sharing and discussing the honest reality of what happens when...
While I somewhat agree that girls do take failure harder, I would not agree that Jessica Lahey’s book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed applies to all parents or families. In fact, I think, race, economics, culture and gender all play an important part in how well a child handl es failure. And unless you are a member of that specific group, it is difficult to say that letting go is what African-American boys need to succeed.
I am curious to know what you think. Read the article first, by clicking the link below or the picture above and then leave me a comment below.